Saturday, May 15, 2010

A Child's Fault

Suzanne Vega--"Luka (live)" (mp3)
Ron Sexsmith--"Reason To Believe" (mp3)

Inspired by the recent trial and the tragic circumstances of one of our students.

It is not a child’s fault that no one else saw.

It is not a child’s fault that no one asked.

It is not a child’s fault that when warned not to tell because bad things would happen, he believed it.

It is not a child’s fault that she didn’t tell.

It is not a child’s fault that he was afraid.

It is not a child’s fault that she was found out.

It is not a child’s fault that his body contained evidence.

It is not a child’s fault that she said a name.

It is not a child’s fault that the police were not properly trained to question him.

It is not a child’s fault that a parent asked too many times, over and over, exactly what had happened to her.

It is not a child’s fault that he acted out sexually as a result.

It is not a child’s fault that a lawyer didn’t know how to properly present her as a witness.

It is not a child’s fault that he didn’t remember at age 8 everything that had happened to him at age 6.

It is not a child’s fault if she remembered it sometimes differently, sometimes incompletely, sometimes completely.

It is not a child’s fault if he forgot, or if he tried to forget.

It is not a child’s fault if she was coached, like every witness who has taken the witness stand has been coached.

It is not a child’s fault if he wonders why he was not believed.

It is not a child’s fault if she no longer trusts how the world works.

Eventually, it will be passed off as something that happened to them way back in childhood, and they will be expected to get beyond it, and everything that happens later on will indeed be seen as their fault.



1 comment:

Billy said...

It's not a child's fault if they diddle themselves - sometimes they diddle with others - when they're only five years old.

It's not a child's fault if their mother beats the crap out of them with a belt for diddling themselves and then repeatedly demands an explanation for what is totally natural behavior, hammering away at them until they give the mom someone else to blame.

Unfortunately, with those last two, sometimes other people get dragged into something that was no one's fault to begin with, most certainly not the child's.

But I guess those depend on parents being ignorant, stupid, or incompetent. Which, in this particular case, clearly couldn't have been possible. ()

None of this was ever a child's fault. Parents, on the other hand...