The Proposal - Hard Drugs (mp3)
You remember back in the ‘80s when AIDS took over the collective conscience of our country? The way I remember it, a crack team of CDC scientists were searching desperately for Patient Zero and the mythical monkey who transmitted the HIV virus.
The idea is, by tracing the problem to its origin, you can more efficiently eliminate the contagion.
Well, I’m starting a new mission, and I need a few smart and motivated people on my team. Our mission: To find the person who invented the notion of Push Presents and quarantine his/her ass for eternity.
Don’t know what a PUSH PRESENT is?? Well, let’s go to Wikipedia!
The term "push present" first appeared in a publication in 1992. There is, however, no conclusive evidence that the present was invented by the jewelry industry to sell more goods, and until recently it was passed on largely by word of mouth or peer pressure among both mothers and fathers. According to Linda Murray, the executive editor of BabyCenter.com, "It’s more and more an expectation of moms these days that they deserve something for bearing the burden for nine months, getting sick, ruining their body. The guilt really gets piled on."According to a BabyCenter.com survey, more than a third of new mothers received a Push Present, and more than half of pregnant women expected one.
What. The. &#$%?!?
"Ohmahgawd honey, you were amazing. Are you ready to hold the baby?"
“Yeah whatever. I guess so. But first, what the hell did you buy me for all that hard work I just completed?”
Ladies, if you want to kick back and say that I’m just an insensitive male who fails to appreciate the misery of pregnancy and the pain of childbirth, go ahead. You’re wrong, but go ahead. I’ve witnessed three children born naturally, without any pain relief, and I’ve been present for practically every day of those 120 weeks of pregnancy.
While I wouldn’t dare suggest I know what it’s like, I sure as hell have a sense of things, and it ain’t a damn walk in the park. Nor is it supposed to be. The misery has a purpose, and it's one of the biggest reasons that men are regularly, frequently, much shittier parents than women.
To repeat: The baby is the reward. The baby is the gift. This is that unusual yet real moment where the pot of gold at the end of the rainbow exists and is worth every step of the journey.
When I mentioned push presents to my wife tonight, she told me that I actually gave her gifts after two of the three births. That’s great. I gave her gifts because I felt moved to do so, not because there was some add-on invented cultural expectation with a name that pressured me into it. In general, expectations suck, and no one should know this better than a pregnant woman.
Cersei Lannister would expect a push present.
Therefore, in conclusion, expecting a push present is evil, to be placed right there alongside Sweet 16 birthday megaparties and Bridezilla-friendly weddings, both of which Cersei would also love.
So who's with me? We need to hunt down the originator of this nonsense and get medieval on his or her ass, and we need to do it stat.